Are you at the start of something big?
You’ve met someone, may be ‘the’ one and sure are spending a lot of time thinking about them. How can you gently nudge them along to appreciate just how fabulous you know you are and take the relationship up a level or two? May be you’re just checking them out to see if your hunch is right and it’s a great match.
Reflect on how you met
How you met is the starting point in your journey of love. There’s even an Instagram account, The Way We Met, that documents how people fell in love and it’s surprising. There’s more than 400 posts and it’s growing. Becoming (more) than Facebook friends, the car park encounter and love in the checkout lane are some of the real-life stories. Tell us about yours [link to comments section at end of blog post].
May be, like former special services soldier and now actor/author/speaker, Damien Thomlinson, you were at a golf club, practising your strokes and stopped for a bite at the café. You’re having trouble deciding on a sauce and the waitress chirps “it can’t be that difficult”. That sassiness of Madison Burgess piqued Damien’s interest. He liked her attitude and, to cut a long story short, they recently walked down the aisle together.
That’s just heart tugging when you know he lost both of his legs during active service. There’s a gorgeous story about the wedding in a recent issue of New Idea, by the way.
So, is there something about the way you first met, what was said, or even where, that allows you create a foundation for your future together? Did one of you utter a yearning to go sailing, visit an island in Sydney Harbour or say you love romantic picnics? May be there’s a clue there on which you can hinge a great next date.
Create memorable experiences together
Be the hero (or heroine) in the relationship by navigating your own journey and sharing the steering wheel of course between you. Each relationship is an exquisitely unique journey to be savoured and appreciated by the key players. It might have been love at first sight, or you’re slowly falling in love, and not resisting it.
Intimate get-togethers allow you to shine at your best, but sharing your outings with friends, family and acquaintances will really show you and your potential life partner what each of you are made of. Rewarding experiences actually “flood your brain with dopamine, a mood-boosting chemical”, says social psychologist Arthur Aron. His research has found novelty is the key ingredient of a great partnership.
Say it with meaning
How about going old tech and writing a note or card to thank them and snail mailing it to your ‘steady date’? Now, that will get their attention. You might like to thank them for a lovely weekend or date, or something about their character that makes you sigh at how wonderful they are. Perhaps you’ve misunderstood them and want to make amends.
Bring sassy into your relationship
Back to Damien and Maddison, they really carried that ‘sassy’ element into their wedding day with the bride arriving in an immaculate 1951 ivory vintage Rolls-Royce. Actually, Australia in Style came to the party with that car for their special occasion. We’re pretty chuffed that they chose us.
Classic vintage cars might be your thing, too. You don’t have to wait until the big day to step into some sumptuousness. There’s a range of vintage cars available for hire with a chauffeur for two hours or more through Australia in Style. Short on ideas for a romantic trip? Here’s a range of ideas to get you thinking.
How did you meet your match? What’s your favourite memory about that time? Share your stories with us.